One of my greatest beliefs is in the power of written goals. Research has shown that writing your goals down and having an accountability partner is exponentially more effective in the achievement of them.
However, it’s also important to set goals that are meaningful to you and to not let others expectations drive your goals. I ran into this recently in my quest to get into better shape.
Since moving into our house 3.5 years ago I’ve been slowly gaining weight. I blame it on the fact that we’ve got a much more active social life and many of the events center around meals or drinks. But in reality, it’s that combined with lower physical activity (I’m not chasing little kids anymore) and age. That a-thing we can’t escape. My mom used to warn about age slowing down my metabolism and damn if she wasn’t right.
I wanted/needed to make a change. So I decided to get the latest Beachbody workout, Country Heat, and joined a Facebook accountability group with a friend. Let me tell you, the ladies in this group are amazing. I’m super impressed and intimidated at the same time. Their commitment and success so far is remarkable.
Most of them have been in the group for several months already so they have achieved some spectacular results. For me, just getting back on the horse of formal workouts (my intermittent runs or elliptical workouts really don’t count), 6 days a week of workouts on a set schedule and being accountable to keep up with everyone else in the group was overwhelming.
Knowing myself and that my all or nothing attitude would kick in if I couldn’t keep up, I made a conscious choice to establish personal goals and voice them. I posted in the group that my personal goal was to workout 3x a week for the first month, regardless of what the plan said. After posting that I felt vulnerable, exposed and instantly regretted it. Why? Because I was worrying more about not fitting in and what they thought, than about what was best for me.
Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible” – Tony Robbins
Guess what happened? Every one of the women that I thought would be disappointed or judge me, came back in support. I received words of encouragement that I should do what was best for me and that they would be there to push me along.
WHAT? This is so freeing and powerful at the same time. Now, I haven’t been the most active Facebook Group participant but their support means the world to me.
What does this have to do with you? Your my new accountability partner. I’m going to share my monthly goals here on the blog and then the following month I’ll provide an update on what was achieved or not achieved along with the new months goals.
- Drink 64oz of water a day
- Workout 3x per week
- Spend a few minutes each day in silence and reflection
- Practice Gratitude daily
- Launch Blog – ALifeLessCluttered.com
- Establish editorial calendar
- Clean and organize bonus room
- Take donation to Wishing Well Foundation
That’s it for this month. It’s a pretty big month in the Bowen Household with one child moving out on his own and another entering high school so I wanted to give myself room to breathe and reflect as we enter this new season. However, these goals will all lead me towards my larger goals and have a profound impact on my mental/physical well being and relationships with my husband and kids.
What are your goals this month? Leave them in the comments so we can all help support you.